Leave Your Past Where It Belongs

Donna SLam — Leave Your Past Where It Belongs

Leave Your Past — In The Past

Silver Lining

  1. To start with, give mindfulness a try. Mindfulness means maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment, through a gentle, nurturing lens.
  2. Get honest with yourself and decide who you want to be — a victim forever or an emotionally strong and timely evolved person! Even though you have been victimized, you do not have to remain a victim.
  3. Understand and remember that what has happened in the past cannot be changed. The emotional trauma you have experienced has changed you as a person and has made your life different from others but you do have a choice. You don’t have to live in victim consciousness forever; you can move through it if you’re ready to do the mental work that’s needed.
  4. Now, close your eyes for several minutes and imagine how your life would look if you don’t visualize yourself as a victim. A life where you see only the positive things from your past life around you — your friends who have supported you through thick and thin, the hobbies and the activities that you enjoy doing, for example — dancing, visiting the places that make you happy and gleeful, and more. These thoughts will reveal that you are really fine and you were never at fault for whatever bad happened with you in the past. You are a lovable person and just because a few people failed to understand you doesn’t mean that you have to jump through hoops to be loved by others.
  5. Another thing which you need to focus on is that — time does not stand still, and neither do people around you. Today is different from yesterday and tomorrow will not be the same as today. So, if your past was bad — at least a couple of incidents were — doesn’t mean that your future will also be the same. The same logic applies to the people around you — if a few folks have mentally harmed you or caused pain, doesn’t at all mean that all your friends or future friends will treat you the same way. Things change, situations change and so do people, with time. If you live with your fears forever, you will always be away from the most wonderful feeling in this world — LOVE. It is a powerful feeling that you associate with everything around you — the people, the animals, the plants, even the inanimate objects. And without love, there is no meaning to life. Love chases life and life should also chase LOVE.



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